“But Mommy, what if my friends don’t like me in this?”
It sounds like something you’d hear from a teenager but these words came out of the mouth of my three year old as we were getting ready for church. Already she is showing signs of being self conscious and wanting the approval and acceptance of others. I wonder, where does she learn these things?
I look back at my own childhood and recognize all the same insecurities that I had to overcome. Truthfully, there are several that I am still overcoming. I intimately remember the emotions and thoughts that continually went through my mind, and I wonder how I can help my daughters prepare to face the same things and learn to approach life through the lens of God’s love.
I think we all desire what’s best for our children. It kind of goes with being a parent. That’s why we read books, listen to podcasts, and follow blogs that give us insight and encouragement. We look for help to do the things we want to do but may not know how.
It is for these reasons that I read one of my most favorite parenting books, titled Don’t Make Me Count to Three. It is in this book that I was encouraged to memorize a specific prayer and I have since prayed over my children every day. When you break it down, it covers everything that I desire for my daughters.
I want them to have inner strength, so they don’t compromise the truth or be misled by the crowd. (I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.) I want them to have roots of faith that keep them grounded when things get hard. (Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.) I want their relationship with Christ to make them complete – not requiring any other friendship or dating relationship or accomplishment to make them feel whole. (Then you will be made complete…) I want their lives to be full and abundant. (..with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.)
How does this happen? By experiencing the love of Christ. Everything Paul prayed for the church in Ephesus applies to our loved ones as well. Perhaps the best parenting strategy is to simply pray that our dear ones would know God’s love.
Thrive in Five – One set of Bible verses, 5 minutes a day, 5 days a week. Let’s dive into God’s Word.
When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and prayer to the father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.